Dear brothers and sisters, we all are guilty of making a wrong choice in life. That’s just part of life. And often we end up paying for that wrong choice. Sometimes we make a choice based upon outwardly benefit and not giving thought to the overall benefit to ourselves in this world and the next.
As humans, our choices are made individually but we are all influenced by other people whether this is unconsciously or consciously. Those other people we could say are role models for us.
There are people who take pride in their country and so someone from there is a role model. Others choose sportspeople, singers, famous people etc.
There is a hadith on this in which it is said that:
The Prophet SAWS went past a man and asked his companion, what do you think of this man? He said he is one of the honourable people, he is a man who wanted to find a wife they would give or interceded they would listen.
Then they passed another man and the prophet SAWS asked what about this man? He said he is one of the poor Muslims he would struggle to get married if he asked and not many will listen to his intercession.
The prophet SAWS said this person is better than a whole worlds worth more than the precious man.
Dear brothers and sisters, the danger with this approach is that if those people, despite their fame and popularity, are on the wrong path with Allah SWT, then we could potentially follow them in that path of misguidance and ignorance.
Allah SWT speaks of this danger in the Quran. In Sura Ahzab, ayat 67-68, it says:
And they will say, “Our Lord, indeed we obeyed our masters and our dignitaries, and they led us astray from the [right] way.
Our Lord, give them double the punishment and curse them with a great curse.”
Dear brothers and sisters, the point we need to make here is one of a learning method. As humans, we are always learning. It’s acute in our earlier life because we know so little and we attend schools, colleges and universities but that isn’t where learning stops.
The point is though that as Muslims, we are living in the world after the revelation of the Final Testament, the Quran, and the recording of the actions and sayings of the practical application of the Final Testament, i.e. the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammed SAWS.
But as important as it is to follow the Sunnah, it becomes difficult not to take on the advice of people as role models around us. That can lead to problems as role models can be subject to mistakes and worse still, mislead.
Dear brothers and sisters, we need to be more intelligent in our way of learning than that. As human beings we need to understand our learning process and with that understanding, become people of sound mind and critical thinking.
What is that learning process we all embark upon? It’s a 3 stage process and it is defined here.
At first we are ignorant. This is stage one. As we gain more knowledge we can become arrogant, claim we are right and stubbornly hold onto our opinions. Those who stop here, well, their opportunity to learn is over.
Or we can be humble and move ahead. We learn to discuss and share viewpoints and take the best thereof without regard to who it is from. This is stage two and this is called wisdom.
Finally we realise that taking the best thereof is not always right. Two or more people, even entire groups may agree on something and they may all be wrong. In these matters, we seek out the truth with a passion ourselves, researching and utilising all the tools at our disposal such as from mentors, role models, internet and books. When we get to the truth we know it’s the truth because we find no contradictions and no compromises. This is guidance.
Dear brothers and sisters, the Prophet SAWS is our first and foremost role model. We should be using his, and indeed the knowledge acquired from all Prophets, as part of our decision-making process.
However, role models are also needed that are around us today. Purely because that is human nature and we cannot deny its necessity in our everyday lives.
Therefore, this concludes with a practical checklist on how we should be choosing role models to help us remain on the straight path:
- You should choose your role model in light of the major goals in your life. Find someone who has been through the same path you are about to take and therefore can help you avoid the path of trial and error they have embarked upon.
- Take account of your personality and way of being when looking at a role model. For example, if you are a soft-spoken person then a role model that has an aggressive attitude might not be best match. There is no hard and fast rule to this. Some people might prefer opposites to themselves, the point here is to be self-aware of this point and take it into account.
- Choose multiple role models. For example, one for character, one for work, one for Islamic teachings, one for Family life, etc. And importantly, only allow them to be a role model for their chosen area. Having multiple role models allows one to avoid becoming overly dependent should one of them stumble, which inevitably as humans we are all capable of doing.
- And lastly, and most importantly, keep your role-models in check by constantly weighing them up against the Quran and Sunnah. If they consistently contradict this then they should not be maintained and it’s time to look elsewhere for a role model.
Dear brothers and sisters, choices are a part of life. And mistakes will always be made. However, when it comes to being on the right path, an understanding of how we educate ourselves and how we choose role models is the key to obtaining correct knowledge and making the right choices in life.
May Allah SWT enable us to choose our role models wisely. May Allah SWT enable us to think critically on our choices and may Allah SWT reward us for our efforts in this regard.
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Dear brothers and sisters, each and every one of us loves the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and would want to be of those closest to Him in Judgement day.
I think it is fair to say that there isn’t anyone that wouldn’t want to be the most beloved to Him?To have that closeness to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon Him, on that day is the closeness to being in Paradise.So, what does one need to do in order to be a part of this rank?
The answer, dear brothers and sisters, may surprise you. It isn’t about huge amount of fasting, or going Hajj, or being extreme in dissociating with worldly affairs, neither is having a huge amount of knowledge of being of powerful build, or power and money.
What then what could it be?Dear brothers and sisters, the answer lies in having good manners and hence the topic of this week’s khutba.
The Prophet peace and blessings be upon him said, according to a hadith:
It is of the most beloved to me and the closest to me in Judgment day are those with the best of manners.Dear brothers and sisters, Allah SWT has sent the best of Prophets, Mohamed, Peace and blessings be upon him, to teach us the best of manners.
He is reported to have said according to Hadith:
I have been sent to complete the best of MannersDear brothers and sisters, Our Prophet peace and blessings be upon him had the most complete of manners, as Allah SWT has described him in the Quran in Sura Qalam, ayat 4:You are of great Manners
So, dear brothers and sisters, how do we emulate that so that we can be of the rank spoken of earlier?
Well, having good manners is to be following in the footsteps of our beloved Prophet SAWS. And therefore the traits mentioned in the remainder of this khutba come from accounts of his manners SAWS.So therefore it is to be generous and helpful. It is to be such that one does not hurt others.It is to try and correct mistakes, and to forgive others, be quiet about others errors and mistakes, and to try and get the hearts closer to each otherGood manners is also about the challenge to maintain your relationships with family in particular; and to give those who need, and to forgive those who have oppressed you, to look after the old and to be merciful on the young, and to give each person their rights.
How appropriate is this reminder in particular with the oppression we see against Muslims, almost on a daily basis in our media.And when Aisham, may Allah be pleased with her was asked, what would the prophet peace and blessings be upon him do in his house, she said (He would do in his household what would not require others to service him, but when prayer was called he would leave for the prayer).
Dear brothers, this one is particularly for you because good manners is doing your fair share of the housework and the chores. Chauvinism doesn’t exist in our faith and good manners confirms this.The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was very generous, good with gatherings.Uthman May Allah be pleased with him said according to hadith:We have by Allah accompanied the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him while travelling and while home, and he would visit the ill, attend the funeral, would come with us into battles, and would be with us with small and large.
Dear brothers and sisters, this tells us that we need to be generous not only with the obvious but also with our time and our efforts.The prophet peace and blessings be upon him would be smiling a lot; Jareer may Allah be pleased with him said:The Prophet peace and blessings be upon Him did not see me except was smiling.Dear brothers and sisters, this is telling us that his demeanour was always a happy one. It tells us that optimisim, hope, happiness and contentment is synonymous with good manners. A smile, they say, is contagious and is also a form of charity and what sweeter charity is there to give than a smile?The Prophet peace and belssings be upon him was the most forbearing and patient, Aisha may Allah be pleased with her said
The Prophet, peace and blessings be Upon Him, did not hit anything with his hands, not a woman or a servant except when in battle for sake of Allah
Dear brothers and sisters, good manners comes with having patience, tolerance and an acute understanding that this life is a test. Things will get to us. We aren’t robots and we do have feelings. Sometimes people will cause us to be hurt or angry but the key to having good manners is to show patience and to not lose it as is more and more the norm these days. And lastly, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was the most forgiving; His people hurt him, and the Angels of the mountains asked Him if He wanted the two mountains to come together and crush those who hurt Him, He refused.
Dear brothers and sisters, good manners is knowing that even if you are wronged, you should forgive. Even if you are hurt, the manners is to forgive. Life is short and life is a test. Show mercy to fellow creations of Allah SWT so that He may be able to show mercy to you on the Day of Judgement.T
his khutba and its translation can never do justice to the vast examples of impeccable manners that were demonstrated by the Prophet SAWS. However, we must strive to learn more about his life and how he lived it so that we can learn to imitate and hopefully inherit the manners of our beloved Prophet SAWS.
May Allah SWT teach us good manners. May Allah SWT enable us to absorb examples of good manners and may Allah SWT reward us on our good manners.
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The greatest man ever to walk on the face of the earth, who gave respect and rights to all. A beautiful personality, who raised high the status and rights of women, children and even animals.
A man who showed mercy to all, such mercy which knew no bounds. A most humble man who forgave those who wronged him, who taught others how to live a life of simplicity and love. A man who Allah SWT called a ‘mercy upon creation’.
He took people out of ignorance and showed them the beauty of the light He bought with him. Gentle in composure, merciful in character, beautiful in manners, elegant in speech, and most compassionate and forgiving.
He was affectionate towards children and the weak, tolerant to those who oppressed him, generous to the poor and needy.
Dear brothers, this is the introduction to our Beloved Prophet Muhammed SAWS. Allah SWT mentions him in the Glorious Quran and in this khutba, reference is made to Sura An-Najm:
Your companion has not strayed nor has he erred.
Nor does he speak from his own inclination.
It is not but a revelation revealed.
Dear brothers, if we ponder over the translation of these ayats, we can see that the Prophet SAWS was sent by Allah SWT for us all. And knowing this, if we then study the life of the best of creation, we can see what a mercy he was for us all.
And to put this in perspective, we can think of it in such a way:
Around 1400 years ago he loved us. We weren’t even born yet but still he cried for us, asking Allah SWT for our forgiveness. He wanted nothing less than Jannah for each and every one of us. Despite having never met us. He had wives, children, friends and family who adored him, but it was his repetition of ‘Ya ummati, ya ummati’ in his duas that is the definition of true love. This was his dua to Allah SWT. This was the love he had for us all.
Dear brothers, we are living in a life where role models are being made of the worst of people. Pop singers, atheletes and film stars have followers in the millions. But as muslims, we don’t need to look to these people.
As Muslims, our role model is Muhammed SAWS and we need to strive to discover what that means.
Yes, it is true that the effort required in knowing him, his life and his ways is not as easy as watching the current-day role models on TV or on the internet.
However, this is where our test lies in the current age. We need to make that effort to find out who he was and why he commands our love with the manners, words and actions he displayed in his life.
In the current age, where the image of Islam is one of intolerance, we need to educate ourselves and others around us that the message of Islam and the one portrayed by our Prophet SAWS is one of tolerance and forgiveness.
This is mentioned in Sura Al-Imran and is befitting this topic. It is translated as:
So by mercy of Allah, O Muhammed you we lenient with them. And if you had been rude in speech and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you.
So pardon them and ask for forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then reply upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely upon Him.
Dear brothers, this ayat is one of many that demonstrates how we need to behave in the society that we now find ourselves in. Allah SWT illustrates the compassion and the mercy of our role model SAWS in the ayat. The following Bukhari hadith also illustrates his love and compassion. He said:
When I enter the prayer I intend to prolong it. Then I hear the crying of a child, so I shorten it knowing the difficulty his mother will have with him crying.
Dear brothers, we are obliged to invite others to the correct path. So in today’s day and age, how does one achieve this? The answer to this is simple but the effort is life-long. It is simply to follow in the path of our beloved Prophet SAWS. To emulate his behaviour, his manners and his way of dealing with worldly matters is the best Dawah that we can do in this day and age.
And by following his path, we can become a beacon to the truth for those who are lost around us. We can perform Dawah without ever having to stand up and do a speech on our faith. And alongside that achievement, we will have achieved the best we can In this life and that is to emulate our beloved Prophet Muhammed SAWS.
May Allah SWT give us the will to study the life of our beloved Prophet SAWS. May Allah SWT enable us to follow in the path of our beloved Prophet SAWS. And may Allah SWT reward us for our efforts to emulate the Prophet SAWS.
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